They usually have no idea that their partner is on dating apps, looking to have sex with other men, while sex between them might be almost non-existent. You gotta wonder though: How does he plan to hold on to a full-grown woman who is fully married to him, while also hoping to have a full-blown boyfriend by the side? How does it make sense? Well, it doesn’t. My heart sank because he texted me the next day, “I want us to be more.” Well, three is “more” than two if you think about it. But thanks to the wonders of Truecaller and Facebook, I could track him down and see his wife plastered in all the display pictures. One other dude didn’t even tell me he has a wife. You should meet him some time,” one has said, taking my calling him ‘Daddy’ to a meta level. There are several who don’t tell you about it till you’re done orgasming all over them. When I look back now though, I have to give that guy props for at least being real about how he thought about the whole situation, including the fact that he didn’t need to hide his marriage from me. At 19, this isn’t the kind of shit a burgeoning queer kid should have been subjected to. That is why men like me go for other men.” At that moment, I remember thinking that this was bullshit considering the last time I'd checked, both men and women had buttholes. So does it matter if it’s a man or a woman you’re sleeping with?” I was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt but he continued, “See, buddy, after childbirth, a woman’s vagina isn’t firm enough for a lot of guys. Why dip your beak outside then? Well, as he tried to rationalise it, “Men across the spectrum cheat. This man has a wife, and together, they have a kid. I was rather bewildered when I found out, but also intrigued. In all honesty though, I wished he’d shown me the ring on his finger instead of the one on his cock. The first time I met a married dude, I didn’t even know he was married. Many gay men I know, including myself, have gotten their hearts broken at the hands of men married to women, with many swearing off this category altogether after having their hopes dashed over and over.